Woman And Trust

Woman And Trust

by Peter James

I think this is one of the areas that the mind set is
different for men and women. For a man, it depends on the
length of a relationship. If they know it will be short
term, trust and communication isn't really an issue. They
know all they are in it for is the sex and they know that it
will be over in a small amount of time.On the other hand,
women see it differently. I think some of it is because they
were taught as kids to be afraid of men. They are told to be
on the look out for strangers or people who might harm them.
Think about it... How many times do you hear of a woman
raping a child? Not very often.

I do think this plays into the mind set of a woman. She will
need someone she can trust and communicate with to have sex.
Now, I don't mean that this is the case with a one night
stand or someone that she has casual sex with. Instead, this
is in regards to a relationship. You see, women view all
relationships as a strong bond. Being that this is the case,
even for a short term relationship she needs to have trust
and communication to have sex.

Let's talk about trust for a little while. You might not
like what I have to say, but that is your choice.

- Women have a reason why they shouldn't trust men.
Actually, they have a lot of reasons. On one hand I feel
that this is a sad thing, but on the other hand I understand
it. I understand the sexual desires of a man and I
understand why they think they way they do.

- We all are looking to get a woman in bed. We all want to
get our freak on as much as we can. Women know this. This is
a reason why she doesn't trust men. She knows that men will
say anything and I mean anything to get in her pants. How
many times have you lied trying to get into a girls pants?
Probably more times than you can count.

- Again the issue with the girls that get raped while they
are kids. This does put a lot of fear into a woman at an
early age. Also, people rape adults. So they are constantly
on the look out for the person who is going to rape them. It
does happen, more so than what we may think. It is a sad
state in this world when men have to rape a woman to have
sex. Personally if I was in such a situation, I would rent a
porn movie and jerk off.

- Women sometimes don't trust men because their fathers were
abusive. This has more of an effect on women than we would
like to think. A lot of people have had abusive childhoods.
It is more common than we think.

- If you are out for a quick lay, I'm not sure that it is
worth the effort to try to figure out why a potential date
or even your current girlfriend has issues with trusting
you. I mean, if you are only looking for sex and she isn't
giving it to you, why stick around?

- If on the other hand you are looking for a long term
relationship with this woman, then you should take the time
out to know why she is the way she is. She might have been
abused or raped sometime in her life. It is important to
know this, but I wouldn't dig too deep.

- If you have to dig deep about what bothers her about men,
chances are she doesn't want you or anyone else to know. It
is possible that after she feels more comfortable with you,
she will tell you. On the other hand, she might just think
you are an asshole.

- People can be very timid in regards to telling others
about their problems. They are afraid they may laugh at them
or hold it against them. This does happen. You might not
think about it, but some men won't even touch a woman who
has been raped. They don't understand that it wasn't their
fault, all they think about is the dirty act and how dirty
they must be.

This is why it is important that you keep an open line of
communication with your woman. She needs to know that she
can talk about anything and everything to you. The next time
she talks about her period, don't go ape shit and tell her
that it is disgusting. Put up with it and ask questions if
you need to. This is the key thing if you want her to trust
you.