Common Male Sexual Worries

Common Male Sexual Worries

You have no idea how many men spend a lot of time worrying
about sex and their ability to perform. It must be of the
biggest issues in the life of a man and it affects his
general disposition in a positive or negative manner. A man
tormented by anxiety is either a man whose sex life is not
very satisfying or who thinks that he does something wrong.
It doesn’t matter if the partner is not complaining, the man
still feels inadequate. Some men actually spend a lot of
time worrying about this or that and no amount of
reassurance could put their minds at ease.

The top problem of any man who likes sex and wants to have
as much as possible is the classic “Am I good enough?”. This
question can mean several things, depending on what the
individual sees as a liability. It could mean “Am I big
enough?” if the man in question has an average-sized or
small penis. It could mean “Am I attentive enough?” for the
worried lover who likes to get the dining and foreplay part
right. It could also mean “Am I really giving her an
orgasm?”. One of the big unanswered questions for men is
whether women fake it. And how often?

Near the top of the tree lies the eternal question to which
millions of frustrated men have been trying to find an
answer: “Does size matter or not?”. Once more we are faced
with the unenviable task of saying that there is no
definitive answer to this question. It all depends on the
woman and what she likes or dislikes. Some women think a
6-inch penis is big enough. Some don’t care one way or
another as long as the penis is not too small. However,
there is no definition set in stone for “too small”.

“I’m still a virgin. HELP!!!!”. Don’t give in to despair
because you don’t need any help, just some common sense.
There is no deadline for losing the virginity. And you
certainly should not take unnecessary risks just because you
simply have to have sex with someone in order to avoid being
labeled a loser. Have some patience, it will happen sooner
or later and it’s far better to save the first time for
somebody special, than to visit the VD ward or fall in love
with a person that doesn’t care for you.

Then we have a whole bunch of problems that belong to men
who are less experienced when it comes to sex. “How do I
find the clitoris?” is a common question among the men who
rely on intercourse to carry the session and are too
embarrassed or too grossed up to go and explore the genital
area. Take heart, boys, there is nothing to be embarrassed
about. Nature has made us wonderful beings and worthy of
each other’s respect. And by the way, giving oral sex can be
a fantastic experience.

Which leads us to the next big worry. This one can be summed
up with the nice question almost any man has asked at one
time or another: “How can I tell if she’s had an orgasm?”.
Unfortunately for the men, there is no way of knowing for
sure whether the lady has had an orgasm or has acquired
considerable skill at faking it. If the issue is really
bugging you, then try and discuss it openly with your
partner. However, unless you or the partner are dissatisfied
with your performance, you should leave well enough alone.

“She’s more experienced than me! What do I do?”. Bask in the
moment, of course. If she is indeed more experienced than
you, ask her to teach you all the tricks (she’ll be tickled
pink by the idea), then start improvising on the knowledge.
Pretty soon you’ll have her amazed and you’ll be in control,
if that’s what you want. Alternatively, you could slowly
sharpen your skills, while enjoying every minute of pleasure
from a woman who really knows how to take care of a man.

And, finally, we have another series of situations that make
men uncomfortable: “She not ready for sex / anal sex / oral
sex / fantasies”. Guys, rushing in or being pushy about
something as intimate and as important as sex is the worst
possible approach. Keep your hormones in check and help her
overcome her fears or worries. If you don’t care for the
soft approach, then leave the girls alone and find somebody
else. Think about the day when all your waiting will pay off
and she will say “Yes”. That’s something worth waiting for.